My son, who is a victim of PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome) has threatened me again. This time because I had the audacity to post a picture of him on the family page of this blog. He submitted a comment, and I’m including it, with the bad words in symbols:
take these g&dd#@m pictures off of this site. you do not have my permission to post any pictures of myself or my now-ex wife. remove them or i swear i will have this website banned, i know hackers… do NOT f#@k with me. From the email address of f#@firstname.lastname@example.org.
He’s correct, I didn’t have permission, and have removed the offending picture, however, as an object lesson, the comment is posted here (edited to be less offensive). I’ve also removed the pictures of him from my FaceBook.
What my son doesn’t realize, is that this behavior is typical of PAS. Children lashing out at the targeted parent (Me) viciously, with no respect for the parent whatsoever. This is not his first vicious communication. I’ve gotten a voicemail that is so incredibly abusive its frightening. The hatred that emanates from him in nothing short of fanatical, and he cannot give a reason why. I’ve asked.
My own son, behaving this way to me. Its unacceptable! But, its also the product of Parental Alienation Syndrome. What his father and grandmother did to him I’ll never entirely know, but it was abuse on the most heinous kind. My son was denied a loving relationship with me.
My daughter, bless her, was exposed to the same abuse, but is a much stronger person and was able to see through it. She was still affected though, and has suffered. But I’m more grateful than I can say that she wants to be in my life. She is one of the most incredible and special people I know and yes, I’m proud of her. 🙂
The good news is that my son is contacting me. He may be threatening me, he may be horrible to me, but he’s contacting me, and reading this blog. I will never give up on him, and Don, if you’re reading this, I love you, and I am proud of you. Despite what you think.